The Woe of Motherhood (updated thanks to the NYTimes)

I don't know if it's just me, but lately I feel picked on by the media.  Apparently, modern parents are really annoying to some writers - just look at what they're saying:

  • Women who have children are trend-following airheads who have children only so they can buy those trendy maternity outfits - just like Angelina and Gwen Stefani! - and are then shocked, SHOCKED, that raising children is, like, hard.  (This was just plain dumb.  Think about it - people having babies to be cool?  Give me a break!)

  • Today Show segments that imply that moms who drink socially, especially with other moms, are pathetic alcoholics who turn to the bottle in a desperate attempt to break the monotony of their lives - and endanger children in the process.  (Just like anybody else who has a drink at the end of a long work day.  Happy Hour anyone?)

  • Breastfeeding moms are perverted exhibitionists who must be banned from MySpace(MySpace!  The land of underage exhibitionism and lecherous old men is suddenly too prudish for babies eating?)

  • And, most offensive of all, that parents should be seen and not heard because raising kids is about "subordinating yourself."  (Right.  I thought parents are in charge.  You try disciplining a two year-old by subordinating yourself.)

Clearly, people that become parents, and especially women that become mothers, have lost their minds.  Our generation of parents are clueless hipsters that absolutely refuse to grow up.  We should get serious and do things their way. 

Excuse me if I don't buy this condescending crap.

Of course, becoming a mother is one of the biggest changes a woman will go through in her life.  Of course, kids are hard work.  Of course, parenting requires sacrifices.

Of course.

But if having children was so terrible, then none of us would be here, would we? 

Yes, parenting requires a lot of tedious boring work.  So does most of life.  Sitting in an office working on budgets and powerpoint presentations is hardly inspirational or self-actualizing.  I would venture to say that it requires some level of sacrifice.  Doing your laundry is tedious, whether you have children or not. 

But motherhood also has many rewarding moments.  It doesn't have to be an isolating experience.  It doesn't mean that you have to lose yourself.  And you most certainly don't have to become a parody of a 50's sitcom parent.  You will change, sure.  But that's not necessarily a bad thing.

Don't listen to these people criticizing the style of your parenting.  What matters is the substance.  No one is looking over your shoulder, telling you what to do.  You're the boss.

That might be scary to some people.  I find it liberating.

This idea that there's a "hipster parent" movement is ridiculous, about
as ridiculous as the idea that once you're a parent you've bought a
one-way ticket to squaresville.